Silence doesn’t always mean intelligence. In fact, it can even mean stupidity. Silence is good sometimes, but not all the time. As the bible says, “There is a time for everything.”
Silence or its opposite has its proper place and time. Bullies want to capitalize on silence as a sign of intelligence because they don’t want to be stopped by the commotion that you make. They want you to keep still, be silent, and endure the abuses that they heap on you.
Silence of the target is the bully’s ally. With the target’s silence, he has become the devil’s own advocate. So the bully tries to tell you that reacting, complaining, fighting back, is a sign of weakness.
I dare say, don’t allow yourself to be brainwashed by this self-serving mindset. This is no different from the ISIS fighter telling the little girl she was raping that what he was doing was an act of worship.
So go on, be silent for fear that you will be called a moron, an idiot, or a stupid person; and let your bully torment you day in and day out, till you’re stressed out.
You say, you can always avoid him. Not all the time, especially when you move in the same family or social circle. You can’t, actually, because he is just there within your sphere. After all, he won’t be called a bully if he is on the other side of the world.
Access is the asset of the bully. He believes in the saying, “Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.” You say, you can always ignore him. Sure, but not all the time. Remember, he isn’t called a bully for nothing.
If he offended you once, you can just ignore him, tell yourself it’s nothing, and that this will pass away in time.
But with your silence you have just given him a license to kill your character. You allowed the bully to flourish. He will never stop unless you show some resistance.
History has always proven that evil succeeds and flourishes with silence. Violence becomes rampant when nobody tells anyone to stop.
Silence can mean yes. Countries have been colonized for a long time until such time that they decided to voice out their oppositions that led to revolutions.
You don’t need to suffer in silence if only to show people that you are strong, that you can cope gracefully under pressure, and that you have the grace of handling stress.
Let’s get real. Let yourself be heard when you’re not happy about the way other people treat you. This is not the right time to be silent. Speak your mind and end the bullying.